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I guess it's sort of implied by the existence of this project that, under normal circumstances, I'm not the most motivated guy when it comes to finding women. The whole 100 Days thing is really just a ruse to trick myself into staying interested.
A lot of my friends, have pointed out that I am, in the crass parlance of sales work, "not much of a closer." I don't really mean that in the tawdry sense of "not looking to get laid"; I've covered that already, and it's a separate issue. I just mean I too frequently lose motivation to move a relationship forward even when I haven't specifically lost interest in doing so.
Too often, friends will ask me things like, "What ever happened to that girl you were talking to who worked at KFAI? She was cute, at least on the internet," and the answer comes back, "Oh, huh. Yeah, she didn't respond to my last text, and I forgot to e-mail her or anything after that. It's already been four days, it would probably be weird now." It's a bad habit, but easy enough to break I suppose.
The real problem is that girls, even the less conventional ones, seem to be conditioned to expect some level of pursuit. I'm more than capable of it, but I find I have to walk a fine line. It takes a lot for a soft-spoken, physically unimposing guy to seem like a stalker, but I'm 6'6" and kind of a jerk by most standards.
There's a saying in the rental business that if you don't have at least 10% vacancy, you're not charging enough. It would seem to follow that if no girl has ever actually had to tell you she's not interested, you're not trying hard enough.
So, I guess that settles it. Carpe diem.
I'm Dan. I'm probably free tomorrow.
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